I find myself saying things often that start with, “Remember back before we had kids…” and usually end with things like, “and we could sleep in,” or “and I could get ready in peace,” or similar sentiments. So today, in an effort to reframe my thinking, I decided to think about the things I don’t miss from the “pre-Roo & Monkey days.” Here’s a few:
- Hangovers (OK, I still have them now and then, but much less often!)
- Spending hours cleaning – I used to be a clean freak; now I am still a freak, I just don’t have that much time to spend cleaning!
- Hearing people say, “You’ll understand when you have kids…” (Although now, I know exactly what they were talking about!)
- Not having a good excuse for skipping stuff we don’t want to go to (well, the kids haven’t been feeling good, or that’s right at nap time, etc.)
What I really thought about when making this list, was all the things that I both miss and don’t miss greatly at the same time.
The things like coming home to a quiet and empty house. While I would love some quiet solitude, I also love to get my kids home and see their smiling faces after a day at work and hear about Roo’s day at school and hear Monkey talk about what he did at Ms. Sara’s. Or being able to just go to bed when I got tired. I would love to not go through an hour long or more process every night, but at the same time, I love to read stories to my kids and pull the covers over them.
That’s the thing with kiddos – you realize that as much as you miss those parts of your life before the craziness and the chaos, I would never want to give up a second of the time with my perfect little monsters (ok – maybe some of the temper tantrums and definitely the poop blow-outs, but everything else…)!